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Tuesday, November 11, 2014

Accepting Your Flaws

The beauty world is all about covering up your flaws. Have dark circles? Erase them. A little chubby? Drop it in two weeks. Have spots? Cure them by tomorrow morning. Dry hair? Make it bouncy and beautiful with these thousand products. There's a reason people get addicted to beauty-- we buy into the idea that products are the only thing that can solve our beauty problems. 

We're always told there is no such thing as perfection, but I disagree. I think there is such thing as perfection in a technical aspect-- there is a perfect arabesque in ballet, for example. There are moments captured on film and in photography of perfection in dance. When it comes to beauty, there are fleeting moments of technical perfection (often with the aid of photoshop). There are photographs in which there is nothing wrong with the subject. At least, that's my point of view.

When it comes to everyday life, though, we have to accept our flaws. Sometimes it's easy and sometimes it's difficult. There are flaws that we can fix with makeup, and there are flaws we can spin in a positive way. Others, though, we just have to wait for them to go away. Or live with them.

When I was younger, I really hated having chubby cheeks. I thought they made me look fat overall, and I tried to get rid of them. However, as I've gotten older my face has narrowed out. My chubby cheeks have turned into squishy cheeks that are apparently very fun to poke. I once had a (very drunk) friend tell me I had tofu-cheeks! I love my cheeks now because they are smooth and soft, and make me look a little bit younger.

Something that was harder for me to get over was the size of my eyes. Asians have this weird complex about their eyes... we always want them to be bigger. When I lived in Singapore, I was always aware of women who had eyelid surgery or other enhancements done. Though I considered them, I eventually decided that I didn't want any scalpels near my eyes. Nope!
Everyone can fix their dark under-eye circles with a good concealer though, so at least that was an easy fix.

Flaws suck. If it was up to us, I think we'd all chose to be our definition of perfect. Since we can't do that, the best we can do is fix what we can and deal with the rest. Honestly, that's not such a bad solution. Even though we might feel like everyone is staring at our flaws, they're not. I'll never forget when I had a massive pimple and my (now ex) boyfriend told me I looked impossibly beautiful. I didn't believe him at the time, but I wish I had. Though we might not feel beautiful, in someone's eyes, we are. And isn't that enough?

No makeup and bad selfie angle. It's okay though! Smile :D


  1. Beauty for a women is so hard. We never feel like we are good enough, our skin is clear enough or our bodies small enough, but what we need to realize is that we just are enough! It doesn't matter how many people call you beautiful, you won't feel beautiful until YOU call yourself beautiful!

    Great Post!!!

    1. That is very true! We are who we are... we can't change that, so better start liking it. Or loving it.

  2. I love this so much Natillie! We are all beautiful, flaws and all! If you changed your eyes, you would be changing a part of you, a part of you that makes you beautiful. I was born with 2 really small red dots on my nose, and they look kind of funny, but they are just a part of me, and a part of me I've grown to love. Quirks are what make us special :) Lovely post!

    1. Hi Hayley,

      You're always leaving such lovely comments on my blog. Sorry I'm not always replying to them-- but I always read them. I think those dots make you a little different! That's a good thing in my book. I'm so glad I didn't screw around with my eyes.

      Thanks for reading!


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